Things I Learned About Weddings In 2012

I’m often asked why I like officiating weddings. Well, I can’t imagine not celebrating wedding ceremonies. And while it’s not the only thing I do — I also teach, write, consult and speak — it’s a dimension of my life that gives me life.

Why do I love weddings? The simple answer is that I love stories. Every couple that comes to me not onlyhas a story, every couple is a story!

I love listening to the myriad ways in which people first met, and I especially enjoy having them tell me the story of what happened after that first meeting — the story of how they’ve gone about creating a life — oftentimes a life that has surprised them in terms of where it has taken them.

Why do I love weddings? I love them because I continually stand in awe of people’s courage and daring and hope. It’s simply not possible to commit to another person without the courage, daring and hope that necessarily undergirds all faith and love.

I love weddings because I love looking at a couple’s guests as they mingle about before the ceremony and then as they sit in anticipation of the ceremony’s start. I love feeling the wave of emotion that ripples throughout the gathering.

I look at the guests and I know that they know how brutally tough and demanding life can be — that not every day can be as joyful as that day, BUT I see the hope and the excitement in their eyes.

I love standing in the middle of so much hope.

The painter Vincent Van Gogh believed that “The best way to know life is to love many things.” I love weddings because they help me love many things and many people.

In 2012 I met some wonderfully interesting and interestingly wonderful couples. Here are 10 things about weddings (in no particular order) that these couples taught, reminded and showed me.

1. The greatest gift parents can give to their children are the words: “This is your wedding, so whatever you want is fine with us.” These generous, selfless words relieve pressure, diffuse tension and let a couple plan from a place of fun and enjoyment.

2. There is no one “correct” way to celebrate your wedding — the only right way is the way that makes sense to you. Trust your instincts. Be creative. Be you.

3. A groom needs to do more than just “show up.” I’m suspicious of a bride who doesn’t want input from her fiancé and I’m disappointed with a groom who is too above it all to have an opinion. If your wedding is not your shared vision, then I’m really not sure you can have a shared vision of your life together.

4. No 2-year-old should have to walk down a long aisle by him or herself with a hundred “giants” looking on, oohing, ahing, and snapping photos! I’ve seen too many bewildered, terrified 2-year-olds — let them at least walk with another child who is a few years older (and WHY would you want to entrust real rings with a toddler?!)

5. The money you spend on a wedding coordinator is the best money you’ll spend on your wedding! A coordinator is there to worry about the details that you, your mother, or best friend should not have to be concerned about on your wedding day.

6. I’ve yet to meet a bride who was myopically obsessed with having the “perfect” day who truly enjoyed the day or who didn’t turn into a Bridezilla. Your goal is to create a memory that will cause people to smile five years later. From that goal perfection will flow. But if you begin with focusing solely on the perfection, you’ll soon forget what “magic” looks and feels like.

7. You don’t have to believe in God to have a ceremony that is warm, gracious, inviting and that celebrates you as a couple.

8. It is also possible to create a ceremony that honors different cultures and traditions in a way that unites rather than divides all present. It is possible to weave varying traditions in a way that doesn’t create “dueling deities” or one-upmanship.

9. Your wedding really is a gift to family and friends — no matter how jaded we can get, we all hunger for meaning and for something/someone we can place our hope in.

10. Lastly, couples that try not to cry in the ceremony make some very odd faces! I’ve looked at brides and grooms and thought they were bored or angry or on the verge of having a seizure. Then, they later explained: “I didn’t want to cry so I tried not to blink.” You’ve spent so much time, energy, emotion and money on this moment and then you go ahead and focus on not blinking?! I say, cry all you want — besides, if the groom cries guests feel like they got their money’s worth and will slip an extra $50 into the envelope!

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Why Are Wedding Favors Important?

One of the greatest times in someone’s life is when he or she decides to spend the rest of their life with the person that was put on this earth just for them. Weddings are wonderful and everyone wants people to leave their wedding remembering how great it really was. We all know that couples have a lot to do to get ready for weddings like booking a venue, inviting guests and planning the reception. However, couples sometimes over look one of the best things in a wedding, the wedding favors. Some people may not spend a lot of time on them or they may not even give them out at all. This is because certain couples tend to think that favors do not add value to their wedding. So, why bother, right? Well, those couples are mistaken. Favors actually do add importance to your wedding.

Why Have Favors?

Wedding favors have been around for centuries. The upper class started giving gifts to their guests at weddings and it caught on. It is now a tradition. To some people it is actually considered bad manners not to give any favors at a wedding. Your guests want to feel like they are special and that you wanted them to come. So, to show your appreciation, you should send them home with a wonderful reminder of your special day. You want people to remember what your wedding was like. If that is not enough reason to have favors at your wedding, think of them as a nice decoration that you can sit on the reception tables. People will see them when they walk in and be amazed at how put together everything is. This is why a lot of thought should be put into which ones you should have.

What Should Yours Be?

Does it have to be edible? Should it be something they can keep forever? Does it have to be expensive? Your favors can be anything you want them to be. There are many different types of favors you can have. Favors can be theme, ethnically, or traditionally based. You could have something more common and traditional like candles or jewelry or something more unique and creative like an origami flower or Belgian chocolates. It is completely up to you. However, the best choice for a favor is one that comes from your heart. It needs to be something personal so that when people look at it, they think of you.

Yes, you have a lot to do to get ready for the big day. Just do not forget about your wedding favors. Whether you want to make you guests feel appreciated or you just want to have a nice decoration, the favors you pick out will be a big part of your wedding. So, get out, explore your options and find something that will make your wedding one of the best ones around.


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Wedding Stickers – could wedding stickers be one of the ways that helps make your special day unique and help your guests remember your wedding day for years to come?

As weddings become more and more elaborate it is becomingly increasingly difficult to make your event stand out from the crowd. What is sometimes overlooked in the clamour to be different is that it is not only the big things that can make a difference but often times it is the details that single out one wedding from the rest.

One great touch is to personalise items used at the wedding, either for the wedding overall or even possibly for each individual guest. This personalisation can be done in many ways, perhaps through specifically printed materials, hand written items etc. But perhaps a more cost effective and flexible way to do this is through the use of stickers.

So you may well ask – what are wedding stickers? Put simply they are nothing more than stickers that you use to accessorise your wedding and make it a little more personal. They are usually made from vinyl, small in size and have a message of your choice on them. They can be used in a range of ways including:

  • Shoes – you can brighten up and personalise the shoes of the wedding party by adding stickers to them (it is very popular for the bride to have a motif such as “I Do” across the soles of her wedding shoes)
  • Favors – a great way to ensure that everyone remembers which wedding they got their favors at is to pop a sticker on it so in years to come there is always something to remind your guest.
  • Invitations – put a sticker in your invitation and make people can use them to put in diaries etc. This will help to make sure they do not forget and also make your wedding day stand out in their diaries.
  • Envelopes – a simple sticker on the envelope of your invitation will immediately identify and set apart your letter as it pops through the letterbox

Obviously there are many more ways that they can be used and the above list are only a few examples (they can be a great way to keep the kids entertained for a little bit)

As we can see Wedding Stickers can provide a flexible, cost effective and fun way to add a little bit of extra sparkle to your special day.

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Advice to the Young on Their Wedding Day

What would you tell two starry-eyed lovers about to embark on the rosy path of marriage?
That’s the question my brother and his fiancée asked me to answer in a “short” speech on their wedding day. I told them there is no such thing. A short speech on marriage is like a “quick hike” to the summit of Mt. Everest.

After seriously questioning their judgment in people to turn to for advice, I tried to think of anything I’ve learned in my happy marriage that I could offer them.

First and foremost, I told them, be friends. In tough times, you’ll need to return to the safety and security of that friendship to see you through. And in good times, well, in good times you get to be “friends with benefits.”

Marriage is about the long, slow journey; the moments, simple daily moments. Lively bedroom conversations that last deep into the night; long, speechless road trips through the desert. The time she threw out her back and was paralyzed with pain and screaming little ones so you caught the first flight back from a business trip in Las Vegas. Or when you gave her bad directions and got her lost for hours in dark mountain woods late at night on that family vacation. These are the moments that make up a path stretching far into a future that you can’t see or imagine.

Strive for trust and stability, not excitement and adventure. That’s not to say you won’t have the latter. You will. But adventure and excitement are the reward you get for first achieving trust and stability.

Marriage is about letting each other do the things that make you crazy. Don’t argue over the little things like how she lets knives dry in the drying rack tips up; or how much you hate that old, worn out pair of pants he’s owned for 15 years. When he tells you the same story for the fiftieth time, and each time it’s gotten more fanciful, smile, nod and tell him what a great story it is. There are just some things men and women will never fix in each other. And they may best be left unfixed.

Rather than trying to change each other, learn to love each other for exactly who you each are. Be honest with each other, even if it hurts. Marriage is about allowing someone to hurt you and still loving them; it’s about hurting them back and finding they still love you. Let that person tell you everything that is wrong with you, all the things you already knew but could never face alone. Then get over it.

Argue. Challenge each other. Push each other to do good and be better. Know that the baggage and issues you each bring into this partnership don’t magically disappear on your wedding day. In fact, they’ll most likely intensify. Be prepared to battle not only your own demons in the years to come, but each other’s.

You are allowed to freak out at any time, and in fact it’s encouraged. But not at the same time. One of you always has to be the safe harbor, the one that says, “Get over it!” or “There, there, everything will be all right,” even when you don’t know if it will.

Laugh. Laugh as much as possible, at yourself and each other. But always laugh at yourself first. It’s unfair and unkind to laugh at others if you haven’t first proven yourself to be an equal or greater fool.

Find your balance with each other. To use a sports analogy, you need a starting pitcher and a closer. My wife knows that it may take me years to start a household project. But if she starts it — painting a room or tearing up the hideous green carpet in the living room — I can’t help but jump in to see it through. If she doesn’t do her part, the job will never get started. If I don’t do mine, it will never get done … right.

A rough road lies ahead. Arguments, money struggles, interior decorating decisions, filing jointly. But something even more wonderful is about to come your way: Routine. Stability. Knowing. And at last comfort. A comfort you’ve never known was possible. A comfort that allows you to be your sloppy, world-weary, beaten-down and annoying self; the person behind that façade that said you had everything under control. You don’t have to hide it anymore. None of that will change how the other feels about you. And that peace is so much greater than the excitement in the newness of love. You think love can’t get any better than the way you feel right now. But trust me. It does.

Stop caring about the things that the rest of the world cares about — image, income and new toys, Benghazi, fiscal cliffs or any Kardashian. Don’t compare yourself to any other couples you know. Focus solely on each other. It’s now you two, as one, against the world.

Long after the honeymoon take time each day to remember the feeling that brought you together on your wedding day — that magical sense of knowing that this was the person you’ve been waiting for all these years. The feeling that isolated you two from the rest of the world and made you pity everyone else, for surely no one else has ever felt a love, knowing and joy like this before. Keep that feeling for yourselves like a firefly in a jar and put it up on your dresser. Bring it down at least once each day, open it up for a moment and remember.

As I was putting these thoughts down on paper, I received an email from my brother, and he said this:

“Yesterday was a long day. Woke up early, went to work, got home, cooked dinner, unpacked boxes in the new house, put beds together, collapsed into bed. This could have been any long day, with the exception that I was collapsing next to her. We didn’t say anything to each other; we were too tired. She simply put her hand on my back as we fell asleep together. It was the warmest, most reassuring hand I’ve ever felt.”

And with that I realized that there was nothing more I could say.

This article was written by: Patrick Caneday

7 Olympic-Inspired Lessons for Married Couples

The Greatest Show on Earth has come to an end. I admit that as a proud Londoner, I may be slightly biased — but personal bias aside; it seems that London’s Olympics have been a resounding worldwide hit. London is now experiencing an Olympic hangover… a post-high cocktail of elation, exhaustion, inspiration and woe.

It was seven years ago that London said “I do” to hosting the Olympics and for the city’s dwellers it’s hard to believe that it has come to an end.

This, then, is a good juncture to reflect on what lessons we can learn from the Games. It may come as a surprise, but even an event focused entirely on sporting prowess can provide inspiration to strengthen one of our most important relationships: marriage. Here are seven Olympic-inspired marriage lessons for your consideration:

1. False Starts are Fatal:

Since the last Olympics, the “false-start” rule has been incorporated into Athletics. Different to previous Olympic Games, the rule states that a false-start now equals an immediate disqualification. If you start too early, there are no second chances.

In marriage terms, this lesson has nothing to do with age, but it can provide food for thought for couples considering tying the knot. It is important to know when you are ready for marriage as a couple. It may be after six months of being together. It may be after six years. Whichever way, you need to approach it with honesty, communication and a clear, agreed understanding of your rules to avoid a potentially fatal false start which you may not recover from.

2. Value each other:

One of my lasting memories of the Games is the moment Jamaica’s Usain Bolt and Great Britain’s Mo Farah — triple and double gold medal-winners from the 2012 event — stood together holding the other’s victory pose. While Farah did the ‘To the World/lightning Bolt’ and Bolt did the ‘Mo-Bot’ the image became an image highlighting friendship, humor, respect, determination, excellence, inspiration and equality. For these two men who have known each other for 10 years it was their way of honoring the achievements of the other.

For married couples, it can only be a positive thing to value each other. Take the time to laugh together, to set goals and to admire each other (for achievements great and small).

3. Don’t be afraid of change

The London 2012 Olympic Games highlighted that change can be a positive thing to be embraced, not something to be feared. It saw the first ever women’s boxing events and the first time that there was a female athlete in the team of every country to compete in the Games.

Going back a few years, a major change in 1948 was the introduction of the Paralympic Games, an event we look forward to in a few weeks that is expected to be sold out for the first time ever.

This was change for good… and for any couple who intends to be together ’till death do us part’, embracing change is a necessity.

4. Don’t be afraid of PDAs:

The London 2012 Olympic Games were not short on public displays of affection. We saw the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge jump into each other’s arms to celebrate a victory they witnessed. There were also varying proposals of marriage at events, such as spectator Tom Holt proposing to his girlfriend, Elfi Czinegeova, in front of a crowd of 15,000 at a Beach Volleyball event.

Public displays of affection can be a sign of seizing the moment, which is a great attribute for couples to have. If it’s good enough for the Olympics… it’s good enough for us!

5. Don’t give up on your goals

It seems to me that to be an Olympian, it is essential that you don’t give up. Not only do Olympians train for an astounding amount of hours per day or per week, but to be successful, it is essential to recognize that you may not win every battle every time… but if you don’t give up, you can still come back and take gold.

Athletes that highlighted this during the games included:

• Michael Phelps, the world’s most decorated Olympian who even after losing his coveted butterfly title, came back days later to resolutely win his individual title. He retired this week with 22 medals (18 of them gold) from three Olympic Games

• Mo Farah, the British athlete who had learned an important lesson, one which Albert Einstein himself subscribed to. It seems Farah learned that the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again and expect different results. In his case, he tackled his previous sub-medal standard performance by training in a different way, in a different place, with a different coach. The result? Two shiny gold medals for the 5,000m and 10,000m races that he recognizes would not have happened if he hadn’t analysed and acted on what had gone wrong previously

• Katherine Grainger, a British three-time silver medallist rower (from the Sydney, Athens and Beijing Games) who finally gained her gold 12 years and four Games on from her original attempt. Perseverance and change, including finding the right partner was key to this success.

There are countless other examples of this from athletes who competed from all over the world and the lesson here to married couples is that even when you feel down and out, it can still be worth giving it your best attempt again. Achieving success may involve implementing some changes, but being open to agreeing to try something different and not giving up can yield medals.

6. Show your appreciation

At times it can feel like “Thank You” are the two most underused words in the English language, and during London 2012, we were reminded that it doesn’t take much to show our appreciation for each other, yet it can result in something magical. The organizers profusely thanked the more than 70,000 volunteers involved and the athletes passionately thanked their coaches, their supporters and their fans.

Taking the time to say thanks to our greatest supporter, our spouse will be just as appreciated.

7. Be yourself:

Anyone who watched the Olympic Opening and Closing Ceremonies of the London 2012 Games will recognize that both Directors didn’t hesitate to ‘be themselves’ — i.e. to present what they consider Great Britain to be, even if some may not understand or may consider it to be somewhat… [insert your own appropriate word here: weird, wacky, eccentric, etc]!

This was not about trying to copy the admirable precision of the ceremonies in Beijing (a task I think we would have failed at miserably). Doing it the British way was the solution to avoiding an unfavorable comparison.

And that we did. The Opening “Isles of Wonder” and the closing “A Symphony of British Music” ceremonies were awesome spectacles to be admired in their different ways — from the most exciting and interactive history lesson you ever witnessed, to the reunification of the Spice Girls. Even if you didn’t like every choice that was made in the shows, you got a sense of confidence, identity and strength in the decisions made regarding these presentations.

The Olympic-related lesson for marrieds? You can be proud of yourself if you are true to yourself. As with the opening and closing ceremonies, you can love it or leave it… and in the case of your spouse, I hope ‘love’ is the option every time.


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8 tips to help you cater for the masses

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Firstly, do yourself a favour and do not Self-Cater!

Although some couples opt to self-cater their wedding for economical reasons, what you’ll save money-wise you’ll lose time-wise, as you will not have the freedom to relax and enjoy your day.

You want to let your hair down, not tear your hair out worrying about the logistics of the food and wine. Not when there are expert services like Diamond Blue Catering around who will provide out-of-this-world meals at down-to-earth prices.

  • offer a basic drinks package

The drinks should flow at a wedding but you don’t want to end up with a dribbling mess of drunks at the end of the wedding reception. Avoid this by supplying your guests with a basic drinks package of water, soft drinks, wine and beer.

  • consider the dietary restrictions of your guests

Ensure that your menu is sensitive to various cultural and religious food restrictions of your guests and ensure that vegetarians, allergy sufferers, children and those watching their weight are catered for.

  • themes are fun

If you are having a themed wedding, make sure that you co-ordinate your food accordingly. After all, what would a medieval wedding be without a banquet of roasted meats, hunks of bread and pints of ale? Why not have an exciting ethnic buffet at your reception? Flying Woks Caterers will cook up a storm in their massive iron woks and provide an oriental feast for your eyes as well as your stomach.

  • easy-to-eat finger food

If you are having a cocktail reception with finger food, ensure that it comes in bite-sized portions. Nobody wants to get messy or look inelegant when they are eating.

  • use quality produce

Some caterers cut costs by compromising on the quality of their ingredients. Make sure the produce, especially seafood, is fresh and not frozen or canned. .

  • check the tableware of the caterer

Always view the tableware, glassware and silverware to ensure that it matches the style of your wedding. There’s no point in featuring the caterer’s fine Wedgwood collection if you are having a contemporary event.

  • sample the menu

Reputable caterers will organise a tasting for prospective clients. This should give you a good indication of the quality and presentation of the food.


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DIY Wedding Favors: Seed Bombs

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Ever heard of a seed bomb? If you are having an eco-friendly wedding you’ll want to know all about this green wedding favor option.

Seed bombs are balls of clay (or shredded paper), compost and seeds. The compost and clay act as a carrier for the seeds so they can be launched over walls or fences and into inaccessible areas such as wasteland or railways, writes the Ecologist.

Here you have in the palm of your hand a little revolution, something that can change the face of the earth, something that contains the early stages of a field of wild flowers, edible crops or a herb garden. You can use seeds of one plant for your seed bombs or combinations of compatible seeds … With a little help from Mother Nature, something as small as a seed bomb has the potential to improve the natural structure of an area in one fell swoop.

The Ecologist cautions that seed bombing should be done with care:

A seed bomb is a little ball of life and comes with a responsibility to choose your plants and be used in the correct way. You have to consider not only the environment where you choose to launch your seed bomb, but also the welfare of the plant. It is your job as a gardener/seed bomber to make sure the seeds get a good chance of germinating and have a good probability of reaching infancy and – even better – maturing into plants that flower and fruit and connect the ends of the circle of growth.

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If you don’t want to do any guerrilla gardening, you can simply launch them into your own backyard.

Seed bombs make great wedding favors because they are eco-friendly and you can make them yourself!

Seed Bombs Recipe (From via Goodhousekeeping)

Combine two parts mixed flower seeds with three parts compost; stir in five parts powdered clay (available at art or crafts supply stores), and moisten with water. Form balls one inch in diameter; let dry for 24 to 48 hours (stash in an empty egg carton). Gather in paper and tie with raffia; add easy how-tos on a tag.